In our previous article on the subject – “What Men Want from Women – The Question” – we attempted to bring clarity to this vexing subject that is so over analyzed in our culture that we felt its true definition and correct placement in the cosmos justified a separate article.  Now, in this article, its twin, complimentary piece – The Answer – we feel sufficiently understood so as to take on the gigantic challenge of answering this age old question – What Men Want from Women.

As previously acknowledged Men want the Big 5 – Love, Trust, Admiration, Respect, and Fidelity.  We want all of these, need all of these, treasure title to all of them, and revel in beholding all of them.   Also, as previously acknowledged and defined, we desperately want and genuinely need the Bigger 5 that can be viewed as or defined as: How we are treated, lived with, interacted with, participated with, and empowered.  We sincerely believe that this literally defines the entire world of masculinity.

Defining the Big 5 is not the subject of this article; defining the Bigger 5 is.

1.  How a Man is Treated (or Toleration) – This refers to the freedom to simply be Male in all and with all its uniqueness and idiosyncratic complexities.

2.  How a Man is Lived With (or Unaltered Acceptance)- This gets into the way in which a man is allowed to be his natural self, since the more natural he is allowed to be the happier he is to return home after a really tough day.  Men have no natural barriers to anything physical and so we do things that women are expected to be blissfully free of – like flatulence, spitting, and the like.  These and all their similarities should be greeted with quiet contribution to his feeling and being accepted “as is”.

3.  How a Man is Interacted With (or Informed Communication) – This just mean an awareness of what talking to a man is really all about.   While this subtopic greatly transcends the boundaries of a simple article, an example should suffice.  Men treat human interaction as being appropriate and necessary only when it contributes to survival or the attainment of an equally important task or goal which contributes thereto.   Knowing things like this will help every woman comprehend the challenges of effective, appropriate and just plain smart interaction.

4.  How a Man is Participated With ( or Deference) – This – the most widely misunderstood of the Bigger 5 – means simply allowance of the male to have preferential input or control of seemingly unimportant issues.   A silly example should suffice here:  Selecting the Restaurant for dinner after a day-long drive on vacation is of little consequence here and can quite literally be left to the children.  The choice of the nights lodging site is totally in the province of the Alpha Male because it is both territorial and protective.   Okay?

5.  How a Man is Empowered (or Ruling Dominion) – This refers to the instant and total deferring to the male his ownership-of-ruling on those things that biology has given and demanded of him – without question or discussion.   He signals these by his tone and the loudness of his voice.  This is his monarchical presence or dominion. It is prized above all other things except Love.

If you are really trying to get ex back from a breakup where mistakes in the Bigger 5 were made, or if you are planning to win your ex back, a thorough understanding of these issues of unknown importance by women will help to get your ex back.